I think you're awesome too, even when we clash on the internet. We should chat more. My post wasn't actually a back-handed fishing expedition for compliments, at least not consciously, but I appreciate them.

I would think that the post existing on a feminist blog would pretty well self-select for women and supportive men (and deleteable trolls, who wouldn't respect the instructions anyway), so the limitation seems unnecessary to me. I still think she was being thoughtless, one way or the other, but there are a lot of thoughtless posts on the internet, so it's not such a big deal. It stuck in my mind last night, so I wanted to post a response, to show that nifty, well-meaning blog posts can have unintended consequences.